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15 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Said “I Do”

In-laws 

It’s not easy to raise and care for a child and see them leave home one day to start their own family. Every mum and dad wishes they could hold their sons or daughters back. If your spouse was raised in a controlling and domineering environment, it’ll be tough to let go as the parents will still want to be involved and call the shots in your new home. Then again, you meet some people for the first time and you don’t connect with them. That could be a reason why your in-laws pick a fight at every instance: their first impression of you just wasn’t pleasant.

Kids 

Most couples look forward to having their kids. In some cultures, boys are preferred to girls and this will affect your relationship if the guy is unhappy with a girl-child. Kids take up your time and effort and give you little or no time to nurture your relationship. If you have them too early, you won’t have enough time to bond with your spouse before “three becomes a crowd.” If you don’t have them, your relationship will be strained with the pressure from family and society. If they come too late, you won’t have the requisite energy to take care of them.

Hereditary Issues 

You meet a guy, you like him and in a matter of months you’re engaged. You get married and you find out he’s got some physiological or psychological issues in his family. You regret that you ever met, but you’re stuck and shattered by this new information. Most families have one issue or another, which most couples don’t talk about. Rather, they sweep it under the carpet, hoping it never rears its ugly head. As much as possible, find out what’s in his DNA so there aren’t surprises down the line. Many couples are spending so much money taking care of their children’s health because they didn’t share their family medical history with each other.

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  • I didn't turn to page 2. I think I already know the answer. Any marriage that isn't founded on love of God first, and respect for the ten commandments, will always be hell on earth. And if a marriage is founded on love and respect for keeping His commandments, you can be happily married to less than beautiful spouses, less than wealthy, less than famous. It's not who you marry, it's what you both believe in.

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