Growing up, why didn’t anyone give me a rulebook on relationships; the good, the bad, and the ugly?
Being in a relationship is a beautiful thing, but what happens when things aren’t great any longer, and both partners decide to no longer move forward? Perhaps the natural chemistry is diminished, there are infidelities that cannot be tolerated, or both partners are just at a point where they realize that they can no longer be in a relationship, and would like to be single again. Whether you are the individual handing out the breaking up, or “the victim,” breaking up is tough.
Who would have ever thought that being in the presence of someone you enjoyed, loved, and shared so much with could change in the blink of an eye? When you hear these harsh words:
“It’s over!” “I can’t do this any longer”; “I love you, but I am no longer in love with you…” (the classic) “It’s not you, it’s me” (and then there’s everyone’s favorite) “There’s someone else…” These words consume your mind, body, and soul, and turn you into someone you never realized you could be.
But for all others who knew that path wasn’t for them, here are some key things to remember when coping with a break-up:
Don’t Fight Your Feelings – You are human and you are entitled to feeling down sometimes. It’s okay to cry or be angry (just don’t do anything that will cause harm to anyone or yourself!). And It’s only natural to exert your feeling of pain and disappointment in one of these manners. Let it out! It’s personal therapy.
Do Not Blame Yourself – Everything happens for a reason. You may not want to believe it, but it’s the truth! Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean you are a “hopeless romantic.” It just means that the person wasn’t the one for you. Whatever the reason for the break-up, it was meant to happen: that’s why it did. There is someone out there for you. You just haven’t come in contact with that special someone yet.
Move On – Although I say move on, I don’t mean, you break up with a person today and next week you have a new partner. Don’t t rush it! Take it slow: give yourself time to heal. Give yourself time to realize that you are a great person and someone else will appreciate you for who you are. No one is perfect, but two imperfect individuals can come together to make a perfect situation. Don’t put a comma in your life where a period has already been placed – MOVE ON! There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Take Chances – Life is all about taking chances. You will never know what you will get unless you take the chance. People who often deal with a break-up often turn cold to any new prospects. Although it is safe to keep your guard up, continue to be you, and with time, let your guard down. Do not allow the past to paralyze who you really are. It isn’t fair to you or your future prospects. You could possibly be blocking your blessings.
Focus On You – If you are not happy, you cannot make anyone else happy. Find out who you really are, what you want, what you will not tolerate, and claim it.
Spend Time with Positive People – Positive people bring meaning to your life. They are the ones that help you define who you are. They do not define who you are by telling you, but their presence opens up the bigger picture for you. Cut out the cancer, all the negatives, in your life, because they will only tarnish you.
At the end of it all, we are all humans, and these tips aren’t simple to go by, but with self-determination, motivation, and self-love, you can make it happen.
Don’t let a break-up deteriorate you, but allow it to make you the strongest person you can be. There isn’t anything in this world we cannot handle. If we couldn’t handle it, we wouldn’t be faced with it. Love life, but most importantly, put yourself first and love yourself!
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