I keep saying that Patriarchy is wounding my
generation. I have observed as these patriarchal (sex
ist) tendencies are transmuted into misogyny. I also
think patriarchy is rooted deeply in religion and it
makes me wonder if one can be ‘Christian’ and
feminist simultaneously.
Patriarchy constricts manhood as a very narrow
lane and gives very little room for men to exist
outside of it. Stifling!
And those ideas are reinforced by patriarchal
ideals. This is why patriarchy is harmful for men
AND women.
One of the tragic elements of hegemonic
masculinity is that we’re taught that expressing
emotions other than anger is “unmanly.”
As men, we are taught early to not express feelings
of desire (other than sexual), longing, hurt, or
insecurity. It cripples us romantically.
You see men committing emotional suicide from an
early age.
My observations of the effect of patriarchy and
misorginy on my generation is insane to say the
least:
Girls are taught that men are abusive out of love:
when a girl asks why a boy is being mean, society
answers “probably because he likes you.”
Responsibility for all virtue belongs
to men, for vice, to women.
There’s the insidious, widespread way that women
are held to much higher moral standards than men
and more often found to be lacking;
for example, Eve ate the apple that created original
sin.
Women who cheat are evil but men who cheat
are “wired that way,” boys being boys.
A man rapes a woman and we focus on what that
woman was wearing.
A man betrays his wife and we focus on blaming the
Other woman.
A gossiping woman is catty, a
gossiping man doesn’t get a special name.
Not to mention the recurrent notion that women
gossip, men just talk. (Even when the subjects are not
another person.)
People also think women talk more than men
but it’s the opposite. It’s just that what women say
is undervalued, so it seems like a lot.
An assertive woman is a b*tch. An assertive man is
just assertive.
An emotionally supportive man is an angel, a woman
is just doing her job.
Scantily clad female celebrities who talk about
sex are corrupting children. Scantily clad men
don’t even register, no problem there.
I can go on and on. These sentiments are exhibited
and reinforced by men and women on a daily basis.
Trust me, there’s more need for something to be done about this than ever!
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What I would say to the poet of "The Wounds of Patriarchy" must be said, mouth to ear, breast to breast, knee 2 know, foot to feet and perpendicularly hand to back and even then I question whether this Author would have the sage capacity to understand and bridge the metaphoric relationship between "fain knowledge", perspective's understanding and clairvoyant wisdom...puns intended...Yes I am an old school Iron Ogun quietly fashioned in AnuDay "Patriarchal" Skin, Su(O)N #1, 3rd Generation. Dr. Doctor K. A-Z. I see U, see me ¿/2?.
PS: In case you're wondering, all Africans in America > 100 years didn't all come as chattel..many came West as educators, navigators, architects and entrepreneurs so trust, believe, reconcile and even bridal blasphemous tongues. As a people think in their hearts so are they...question what is Earth without the Su(O)N...to our Sons, eunuch free sighers ...True, being male doesn't make one a man nor a Patriarch; Real men are divine farmers, we bare multiple seeds in a season as Lions of Yudah, least our wives bare but one seed in a 9 month celestial season...if one doesn't appreciate that truth then please don't question or devalue the Patriarchy standing on two legs instead of 3 who pray tell have strayed from the path of enlightenment, perhaps instead of criticism the author should instead lie prostrate eastbound, fast and seek resolution from the great I AM for the answer in duerror season? Peace to the East, whence cometh the most greatest and merciful electromagnetic light holding all celestial bodies in orbit to include neophytes as well whom I admire considering all seeds began creation in father before implementation in mother, surely by divine design ;-) ?
Very wise poem..