3. They Think There Aren’t Many Role Models of Long Lasting Marriages
If your goal is to get to the top of Mt. Everest and you get halfway, you’ll surely be exhausted and will consider going back. After all, many millions haven’t achieved this halfway feat, so why bother? As you consider going down, all of a sudden, you see a few people returning from the top encouraging you to hang in there, and it’s the same in marriage: two people from different backgrounds with different expectations try to live under one roof.
Most of us get married thinking it’s a fairy tale, but we never seem to live happily ever after. There are different phases in a marriage, and once you skip out on the hard part, you lose the opportunity to grow and learn together. If you spoke to an older uncle or aunt about the struggles in your marriage, the first suggestion might be to file for a divorce and get some peace but we lose the art of compromise, negotiation, and forgiveness. If you go to those who have been divorced for advice, they will talk you out of even trying to resolve the issue.
