There’s a Spanish saying that goes, “amor a distancia es estupido amor.” In English, this translates to, “love from a distance is a stupid love.” In the midst of writing this article, I was looking online for statistics about long distance relationships, something along the lines of 10% of all long distance relationships work out, but I did not find anything like that.
Now that I think about it, I guess that makes sense. Who really cares if 10% of all long distance relationships last or fail? Truthfully, it wouldn’t matter in the slightest bit. Relationships are dependent on the people who are in the relationship. What works for someone else, may not work for you and vice versa, so why care about some statistic found online?
Anyway, if you are thinking about getting involved in a long distance relationship with an individual, the same qualities that are essential to any relationship will be necessary, plus more. The number one component to any relationship, long distance or not, is trust. You cannot be in a relationship with someone you do not trust. Trust is the foundation to all good relationships. There is a saying that goes, “when mistrust comes in, loves goes out.” So make sure you have faith in the person you are with.
With the topic of trust, comes the topic of lies—trust’s, number one enemy. Lies are the quickest way to end a relationship. Avoid them at all cost, especially in long distance relationships when you are unable to keep an eye on the person you are with. Having a spy or friend who keeps you up to date may just come back to bite you in your bottom and then that’s when problems escalate to he said/ she said drama.
Another key component to a long distance relationship is communication. Obviously, face-to-face conversations will be somewhat limited, but with technology these days, that shouldn’t be a problem. Take your pick. You can have a regular phone conversation, text, email, skype, oovoo, or choose from one of several social media websites like the ever-popular facebook, twitter, or tumblr.
Now, let’s talk about the most important factor of all—love. How much do you love the person you are with? Is the person worth all the anxiety that comes with a long distance relationship? This is a question, only you can answer for yourself, but if you can truthfully answer yes to all of the above, then you have the potential to carry out a healthy, loving, long distance relationship.