First dates can be a gamble, and for TikTok user SoloDoloBcYolo, his took an unexpected turn. After matching on Bumble and chatting for two weeks, he met his date for brunch—only to realize things were about to go south.
The conversation quickly shifted to intense personal questions about his dating intentions and views on children, according to PEOPLE.
Then came the curveball: “Can you describe your ideal partner?”
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He responded, “In my experience, I think people try to fit the mold of what I’m looking for and make themselves seem ideal, and that has led to toxic relationships or just discomfort.
“I’m looking for someone who is happy with who they are. If it works, it works. If not, that’s okay.”
That’s when the date took a dramatic turn. SoloDoloBcYolo’s date suddenly slammed their fists on the table and began yelling, drawing the attention of everyone around them.
Keeping his distance, the TikToker waited for the outburst to end before seizing the moment to leave.
“I waited until they were done. I didn’t interrupt,” SoloDoloBcYolo told PEOPLE. “I said, ‘Hey, you know what? I don’t think this is gonna work. I don’t like being yelled at, and I don’t like feeling like I can trigger someone that easily. I think we should go.”’
As SoloDoloBcYolo left, his date continued yelling, upset that he was walking away, asking, “So now you’re just going to walk away?”
He then went for a coffee and recorded a TikTok about the encounter, which has since gone viral with over 2.3 million views.
He argued that no one should stay in a situation where they feel uncomfortable or risk triggering someone else.
“I made the TikTok video not to judge that person but more so to say if you’re ever in a situation that you’re not comfortable in, just remember you don’t have to be there. You just don’t. Just because you can handle something doesn’t mean you have to, like life is too short. You don’t have to be there if you don’t want to be,” he shares.
SoloDoloBcYolo offered advice for those who might find themselves in a similar situation, unsure of how to respond.
“People often feel stuck in those situations. If you’re in that situation and you don’t know what to do, I’d say, ‘What would you tell your friend to do?’ We’re all gonna say, ‘I would tell my friend to leave because that’s what you should do.’”
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“If you’re in that situation and for whatever reason, leaving feels uncomfortable, unsafe, scary, whatever, honestly, I would say I would stay quiet,” he advises.” If someone’s screaming, there’s nothing you can say to capture their attention enough to make them go, ‘You’re right. I should stop screaming.’ You’re already past that.”
He revealed that it took a lot of personal growth to reach a point where he felt confident walking away from a date like that.
“My favorite thing to say right now is, ‘Living a peaceful life, ironically, is really hard.’ It takes a lot of effort. We all thought peace was just something people have or something you work towards, and then you always have, but you’ve got to try,” he shared. “It’s so intentional. Every day, every moment you’re challenged, you have to choose peace. It’s really hard.”
