In a recent interview with Angela Yee on her Way Up radio show, veteran R&B singer Mya touched on her 7-year celibacy journey and how that has helped “shift” her mindset.
The Best of Me singer explained she decided to become celibate because she did not want to live through the “pressure” women face when it comes to dating and starting a family.
“Mental clarity. It shifted my mindset. It was no longer a focus,” the 44-year-old explained, per ET. “The rush to be in a relationship, the rush to be married, the rush to be in something because that’s what you’re taught to do — to have kids or to procreate. There’s a lot of pressure on women to be able to do that,” she continued. “Why are we taught we have to be taken or made an honest woman?”
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Mya also touched on how loving oneself should be every person’s main goal, adding that women should prioritize that aspect of their lives. “Love is beautiful, and I think the world always needs more of it, but I think you must start with yourself,” she explained.
“I have to start with self always, versus expecting from other sources. It was just reconditioning. It’s something that was necessary, because it’s a very spiritual thing. You must be very selective if you want better results. That self-accountability started with me by shutting that part of my life off.”
The Case of the Ex singer has been making mainstream music for over two decades and is regarded as a veteran in the entertainment industry. She said people regarding her as a sex symbol influenced her urge to keep her love life away from the public eye, ET reported.
“You try to process all of that at an early age and then the aesthetic you may come with is totally opposite of who you actually really are and it intersects in your life when you’re trying to date or maybe taking photos with other celebrities and so it can get very tricky,” Mya explained.
She added: “But I think a lot of things that are sacred should just remain private, for me until, of course, I’m solid and I’m ready and the foundation of us is together and even then it’s a risk. So I don’t really play with that part of my life publicly.”
