Nigerian writer, design creative & feminist Ozzy Etomi sparked a rather interesting debate on Twitter by advocating for stay-at-home mothers to be entitled to salaries and pension payments from their husbands.
Husband is away, Nanny had an emergency, had to work from home today while handling an extremely precocious 10 month old. I’d pick going to work over staying in with a baby/toddler all day. Stay at home mom’s dont get enough appreciation, admiration or respect. PAY YOUR WIVES.
— Ozzy Etomi (@ozzyetomi) May 9, 2018
In her carefully articulated tweets, she broke down why she felt so after having to take the day off to work from home while taking care of her 10-month old baby as a result of her husband and nanny’s unavailability.
Take a look at her tweets below:
Below are some of the reactions to her sentiments:
And should wives pay stay at home dads too ,since y’all want a salary for something that my own mother did for free and for her own benefit
— Emeka kuti (@louisezeribe) May 9, 2018
How about having mutual family budget? My dad was the one working and my mom staying home w me and my sister. They would just put my dads paycheck to their mutual bank account and both use it whenever they need. And my mom didn’t need permission to buy something.
— O (@ovvnnes) May 11, 2018
I think it is very simple as a stay at home dad through being a carer for my disabled child, both me and my wife look at all the money we get and sort out bills need paying then whatever is left over we both decide what we need and want savings/expenditures
— Benjamin Grice (@GrIcE_FiTnEsS1) May 11, 2018
Asin I don’t understand. . u wanna be paid for taking KIA of ur offspring ??? Is dis feminism …definitely not…even beyonce can’t say dis
— IG- tusparkogebe (@tusparkogebe) May 9, 2018
I don’t understand the people arguing here.
So your wife, the mother of your kids….. does not deserve to be paid as a stay at home wife? And given the best treatment? This is your wife for Christsake. This shows how a lot of you are! Stingy lots.
— Sally (@is_salsu) May 10, 2018
You should have suggested an allowance,fair amount of money,not suggesting a mother should be paid for taking care of her children,that’s a bit extreme.
— Iyke Emery (@its_Emery) May 10, 2018
I totally agree with what you are saying and it only makes common sense. I saw my father do such to my mum growing up, it made her have her own savings while she raised 5 kids.
— Folawiyo Olajoku, PhD🇳🇬 (@DrKareem_) May 10, 2018
People need to read ‘The Joys Of Motherhood’ to have any idea of what your saying. Mothers are left to die hungry when widowed and kids have moved out. The job has the highest labour, the worse hours and zero compensation security.
— Raya (@Raya_Wambui) May 10, 2018
I will pay my wife salary for taking care of our child?,i will pay for house bills,i will buy food stuffs,i will pay for the child school fees?,i will cover some of ur bills too?i send money to my parents and my younger ones? Are u alright?
— kemosabe (@9_2king) May 10, 2018
Facts! This is exactly reproductive labour. Women are relegated to the domestic work of the capitalist system. It preserves inequality because it is not regarded as “real” labour.
— “One Yellow Paw Paw” (@JoshPosts_) May 9, 2018
What are your thoughts on this? Should stay-at-home mothers be entitled to salaries and pension from their husbands?