I’ve decided not to attend any more weddings. I’m really tired of all the celebration and splash of cash that doesn’t get beyond the first year. With so much pressure from the society to outdo the last celebrant, when vows are now written by the couples, aren’t these couples ill-prepared without the requisite resilience for the journey ahead? When a little conflict ensues, they want to go their separate ways.
It still baffles me that a guy who couldn’t let a day go by without seeing his girlfriend would became so dead to his emotions and pick up a rod to physically abuse her barely months after the wedding celebration. When anyone announces they would be getting married, everyone is concerned about the wedding celebration and not the marriage after. People get married for different reasons but they soon find out they would have been better off single than stuck with the wrong person.
I had a long chat with a friend a couple of weeks ago. We argued about how these young couples who are about to get married aren’t told the truth of what lies ahead. We finally agreed that the blame should be shared equally. The couples who are head over heels in love with each other are not in the right frame of mind to listen to the bitter truth, that the journey ahead isn’t a fairy tale. The couples who are having lots of troubles in their marriage don’t want their news around town, so they continue to pretend as if all is well when it isn’t.
After so many years of marriage, I’m hoping some single guy or lady will learn from my mistakes and avoid the pits many have fallen into. Looking back, I really wish I knew some of the things I know now. I wish someone had sat me down and explained things to me. Like a rookie bride, I’ve learnt marriage the hard way. So here are 15 things I wish I knew:
